In Astrology there are the four elements, earth, air, water and fire. I am an air (Sun in Aquarius, Asc in Aquarius & Moon in Gemini). My husband is an earth (Sun in Virgo, and that’s all I know at this stage). Our relationship is interesting to say the least especially because we married in our 50’s! Old dudes with old habits that require new habits …

As an air I am

… concerned with thought, ideas and intellect.

They are detached and objective. They can be versatile and agile in communications. But they might not accomplish their promises or goals unless they are grounded in earth.  They are the theory people in the “theory versus practice” debate. Nonetheless, while the air people are less practical than those of the earth, they are more practical and objective than the other two signs. However, they can become dreamers, thinking and planning, but not applying. Air people are reflective and think things through logically before they implement their ideas. They can be procrastinators, but they rarely make mistakes through lack of thought. They tend not to be emotional, but they are fair minded and consider other’s viewpoints. They are group rather than person oriented. They love humanity, but are not that close to individuals. They have varied interests and could become perpetual students.

As an earth my husband is

… cautious, pre-meditative, conventional, possessive, practical and dependable.

They live by a practical, common-sense code and seek physical well-being rather than spiritual enlightenment, or to rise high. The expression “down to earth” sums them up. They are responsible, methodical, and concerned with detail. Children of the earth element are therefore well suited to life on this planet. They are realistic, builders and hard workers. They are pragmatic, materialistic and reductionist – they reduce everything to what is practical, useful and observable. They particularly value skills and abilities. Earth types are successful business people in the sense that they can stably manage things. While the fiery type is an innovator, the earth type is cautious and practical, being more interested in established business activities than new innovative ones. Imagination to an earth type is of realistic representations of the five senses (or a few of them). They think about what is, rather than what might be. In a way, they lack imagination. They can be too fixed to rules, regulations and procedures.

Source: Ken Ward’s Astrology Page

This helps me understand to a small degree our relationship. I see my husband as down to earth, dependable and cautious – to keep me grounded. My husband enjoys my thoughts, ideas and intellect but finds I fall short on the emotions (such a tricky and dare I say scary area for me). I want to fly away and avoid discussion at all costs but I’m finding that ‘at all costs’ is too costly. So we are slowly learning each other’s needs and working out how to meet those needs without, hopefully, diminishing each other’s sense of self.